I appreciate your comment. Thank you for your kind words. Not taking things personally and not making assumptions is very closely linked, because the two are based on our own reality. If you can accept that other people have different realities from you (based on their beliefs, experiences, etc.), you can start to see their words and actions that are around them, not you. This applies to both agreements, as they go hand in hand. We assume we know what people think, and then we customize it to do it on us. If you`re waiting for someone`s text and they`re not coming, you might think it`s because they met someone else. This is both provided (you don`t know if he`s met anyone) and personalized (you think it`s because you`re not good enough). They`re different, but often together.
When someone moves, it`s more because of their own fears than you do. If I have time, I will try to include a longer response on my FB Live at Noon PST on Thursday. So….. Your question about it: “Assumptions – Truth vs. Fantasy” in an uncertain relationship, I wonder how “not to face the uncomfortable truth that maybe your partner doesn`t want to engage you” (so take other reasons) and how “to be mirroring for each other” is not just a customization. They are supposed to ask questions, because the whole way we avoid asking questions leads us to the hypothesis. Does that make sense? If we spend all our time accepting and making fantasies, instead of worrying about the truth of a situation (not just questions) but clearly saying why we are in this relationship, where every detail where one of the two people is is murky. As for mirrors, everyone is a mirror for you. Everybody. Things hidden in our subconscious can be revealed if we look at how we judge the behaviour of others and do not seek it in ourselves.
That is it — you do not customize them at all — if you want to know more about yourself and why you are in that position. They use them to see you. If you customize, create stories. When you customize, you do the things they do on you. Two different things. Does that make sense? 🙂 The second agreement offers readers the opportunity to manage the hurtful treatments of others that they can experience in life. She argues that it is important to have a strong self-concept and not to have to rely on the opinions of others to be satisfied and satisfied with their self-concept. This agreement also allows readers to understand the idea that each individual has a unique vision of the world that changes his or her own perception and that a person`s actions and beliefs are a projection of his or her personal reality.
 Ruiz believes that anger, jealousy, envy and even sadness can subside or dissipate as soon as an individual stops taking things in person.  Making assumptions is all about thinking. We think too much, and thinking leads to assumptions. Thinking “what if?” can create a huge drama in our lives. Everyone can think a lot, and thinking brings fear. We have no control over all this thought, all the symbols that we distort in our heads.